We’d seen a grey cat scurrying away down our driveway a few
times when we came home. We figured it probably lived next door amidst the
abundant piles of junk in the neighbours’ backyard. About a year ago these
neighbours had to vacate the property as it was to be redeveloped.
The demolition began and we occasionally noticed a grey cat
walking past our open back door. It, as expected, would scurry away at any
indication we might come closer. This happened several times until one day the
same cat ventured inside. We were sitting outside watching. It spent just a few
seconds in the house and then scurried away once again.
This went on for a week or so until one night I was sitting
in our living room near the back door and this ever braver grey cat walked right
on in, surveyed the kitchen area for a minute or two and then strolled back
outside. Again, this happened a few times before the next stage.
We had clearly passed her lengthy audition process and this
dear cat one day strolls in with a kitten in its mouth. She deposited the
kitten in a corner of our sitting room, and paced around nearby for a while.
The kitten as it happened wasn’t too happy. It didn’t like where Mum had put
her and meowed pretty much non-stop for about 20 minutes. Mother cat had seen
enough. She picked up the kitten and took it back outside.
The following day she repeated this procedure with a
different, larger kitten. This larger kitten was much happier about being left
alone in the corner of our sitting room and barely said boo. After some time
Mum went back outside and returned soon after with the smaller kitten from the
day before and put it with its sibling. At this point of course we were
wondering how many more there might be. I went outside and heard the meowing of
another kitten on top of our back shed. I rescued it and put it in with the
others.
Se we now had 4 cats - the stray grey mother cat and 3
gorgeous kittens. So began an illuminating period of watching these creatures
interact and grow. It was like watching a David Attenborough documentary in
real time with front row seats.
I guess we always knew we would eventually get another cat
but that time was far off in some undetermined future. We had the decision
taken out of our hands. We had been adopted by this delightful skittish grey
stray. So skittish in fact, we called her Skitty. Still very nervous of humans,
especially any sudden movements, she would dart away impulsively and slink back
to her kittens when no one was around. But Skitty would stay with us – she had
chosen us after all. We ultimately gave 2 of her 3 kittens away, and decided to
keep the smallest of them
I still hesitate some months later to start writing about
her. Her story brought us so much joy and so much sadness in her short life.
When we decided to keep the three kittens we erected a cardboard barrier across
the entrance to an area of our sitting room to keep them contained. Almost as
soon as that barrier stood it was this tiniest kitten that stood up against it,
looked up and me and meowed. From the start she was the one who wanted to be
picked up; she was the one that wanted human contact. It was love at first
sight and it was an easy choice – if we were to keep one kitten to keep Skitty
company, it would be this one.
She had several trial names. Her official
Paws and Claws
name was Jasper. River called her something else. For some reason I was
reluctant to name her – perhaps I knew somewhere that she wouldn’t be with us
for long. It was only on the final night of her life that I knew who she was. I
named her Spirit – such was her desire to be alive and to do everything she
could within her severe limitations.
Her life with us started out happily. She was much smaller
than her 2 siblings but mixed it with them in the rough and tumble of cat play
and games of chasey up and down the hallway and skidding around corners on the
kitchen lino. She, like the other 2, was hilarious. When her siblings had gone,
she and her mother played together and enjoyed roaming around the garden
looking like Mum and Mini Me. At some
point we began to notice that she had occasional balance problems. She would
wobble a little on her back legs and occasionally tumble over. This gradually got
worse and more pronounced but she, undeterred, would pick herself up each time
and continue on. She was happy.
But we saw that she was getting worse. It turned out she had
a congenital disease of the central nervous system that was affecting her
ability to walk and keep her balance. We kept her for as long as we could but
at approximately 6 months old we had to put her down. (Those words hold no hint
of the depth of emotion that we felt losing her. She was just a tiny little
stray cat but we had fallen in love with her.)
Skitty spent much of the next few days wandering around the
house looking for her little Spirit – it was so sad to see. It didn’t take long
before we decided that we would try again. We would get another kitten to keep
Skitty company. The experts will tell you cats are quite happy being solitary
pets, but many will tell you too that if you have 2 cats they will likely spend
a lot of time together.
We knew it was a gamble. There was no guarantee that Skitty
would accept another kitten into her world, but we thought it worth the risk.
Enter the 6 month old tabby we named Tully. It took 8 days for Skitty to start
washing Tully and lying with her on the same couch or corner of a bed. That
according to our local vet was something of a miracle. Typically it takes 6-8
weeks in such situations before the host cat will accept the newcomer.
We were hopeful, even confident, that Skitty would be OK
with another kitten. She had been a loving and devoted mother to her own, and
was very affectionate with us. We thought she had the right temperament to
‘adopt’ a new cat and we were right.
So now, several months on, we have two pretty much adult
cats who get on famously, and are really good company for each other. In an
ironic twist Tully is the acrobat par excellence that little Spirit should have
been, and walks on tree tops and roofs and fence lines and keeps us in a
constant state of anxiety whenever she’s outside. Two year old world weary
Skitty causes no such anxiety. She has experienced life on her own out in the
wilderness and is now quite happy with a domestic life indoors, or enjoying the
garden from ground level!
If you had asked me a year ago if I was a cat or a dog
person my answer would have been unreservedly ‘dog person’. As I write this
Tully is lying asleep next to me just touching my left arm gently with her
outstretched paws. It’s a deeply calming sensation. I’m now a cat person.